The person that has demonstrated competent communication in
my life has been my mother. She has always spoken to me and others in a way
that did not degrade or intimidate. When my mother was upset or wanted to make
sure my brother and I were listening to her she would not raise her voice but
begin to whisper because she said that whispering would force us to listen to
her words. That technique worked with us all of the time and it is something
that I use with my own children and in my classroom as well. My mother was also
always honest with my brother and me providing reasoning and explanation
instead of just dismissing us and telling us what to or not to do. I
appreciated that as it would allow me to understand the consequences of my
actions and make my own decisions. I believe decision making is a very
important skill that has helped me throughout my childhood and into adulthood
and it one of the reasons I am successful today.
That is very interesting about your mother and how she whispered to you and your brother to get your attention, your mother must be a very wise woman. It is also very good that you were able to use the techniques that your mother taught you and incorporate them into your classroom. Yes, decision making skills is very important something I hope that we can instill in the children that we have in our classrooms.-Jolene Hernandez-Romero
ReplyDeleteOften as I communicate with my own students I hear my mother in the words that come out of my mouth. I think part of developing competency in communication is using what you haves seen work in the practices of others who have exercised influence over your own development as a communicator.
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ReplyDeleteI love that she used the technique of whispering to make sure she got her children's attention. I also like that she just didn't say "no" at times, but was reasonable with you by providing an explanation. I think if most parents used these techniques with their children, they would likely have an easier time parenting. Your mother is truly a wonderful role model for communication. You were blessed to have her in your younger years. Thanks for sharing.
Andrea, what an example was your mother to you!!! You are absolutely right, teaching children why they are being grounded is very important for their decision making process. Great post!!!
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